New York's scale works in your favor when discretion matters. With so many people moving through the city at any given time, a private connection is easier to keep exactly that: private. That doesn't mean discretion takes care of itself, but the city's pace and density give you more room to be deliberate about it on your own terms.
What members look for in New York
New York members tend to value efficiency as much as discretion. Busy schedules, packed calendars, and a citywide culture of minding your own business all support a considered, low-friction approach to a discreet connection.
A privacy tip for New York specifically
Shared elevators, doormen, and close-quarters apartment living mean it's worth thinking through logistics a little more carefully than you might in a less dense city. Our guide to keeping a discreet affair private covers habits that apply well here.